Can we ever think of a life that is free from depression?
Depression is one of the most serious illnesses that if ignored can cause havoc in one’s life. I would say it is still considered to be one of the illnesses that people prefer to hide or in other words hesitate to discuss. The reason for me to bring it as a topic as I have a vision where I want to see people free from depression. Now many will say is it practically possible? I would say nothing is impossible. Later you will find what I exactly meant by leading a depression-free life.
I will like to ask few questions here. Don’t you find the difference between people suffering from depression earlier and now? Sudden hike in suicide cases out of depression. Do you know people are not able to handle tough situations Do you know that Depression is affecting more than 264 million people worldwide? Maximum happens to be the young adults who are suffering and failing to handle in time resulting in unexpected results.
When people suffer from cancer, heart congestion, flu, etc they prefer to immediately get treated themself by a doctor. The reason as they know the situation can worsen if neglected. What about mental health. We often neglect the whole idea of mental health. Did we ever think in depth what can be the situation of a person with depression, what they can feel, what they think, what is the reason behind their irrelevant behavior? What they actually go through during the phase of depression. I have experienced it very closely Hence can explain it better.
After my dad’s demise as I was suffering from frequent episodes of panic attacks. I knew something was wrong with me. I didn’t want to socialize, I use to avoid going to the places that some way or the other use to remind me of dad’s death, I use to get irritated for small reasons, I was getting short-tempered and use to get emotional even for small reasons. I did try to go out to divert my mind but nothing use to calm my mind. As I was in the same house for 4 months, I could never come out of the situation till I was there at that place. As every corner of my house use to remind me of everything that happened on that day. I never imagined this thing can be ever faced that too this way. It is confusing but don’t want to mention it in detail. Finally, when I had terrible chest pain just after 25 days from my dad’s death no one thought what it could be. But as it was left side we all went to the doctor, got all required tests done as suggested by the doctor. The bottom line was nothing showed up and it was a sheer case of severe panic attacks. Then I was asked to get my consultation to be continued further by the neuropsychiatrist.
When I first visited my doctor, I was facing the questions that I was facing already. I said yes to everything he asked. The doctor explained if this is not treated on time can create havoc in life. Moreover, the medication has to be in a particular order and has to follow a regular schedule. Never miss the medicines as they might cause a relapse. The same thing happened I use to get chest pain frequently and not only that it uses to stay almost for half an hour where I can’t breathe normally.
But I realized one thing in due course of time. Just taking medicines won’t help me at all. I had a small baby to take care of, I can’t stay in this situation for long as it will affect my professional and personal life. Then I decided to start working on this situation and overcome it. It was clear that just medicines won’t help you to overcome this. I started training my mind, diverted into learning, growing spiritually, etc. I build up my schedule once again. How to start my day and how to positively close my day.
With this process of transformation, I realized that the first most important thing is to decide why I want to overcome this. I had load number of reasons for it. I have to get better for my son, my hubby, my mom, my family as they need me. It is the fact that humans by birth have got an inbuilt healing app inside them that helps all of us to recover from anything in life. But we need to relate emotions to the things that are important for us and with us. The best thing that helped me was attending some of the masterclasses that were arranged for free and they are the best. Love them all. Master Sri Akarshana Guru in youtube and the group, MindValley trainers best described as one stop solution as we have so many people with their unique ways to guide people and all are best trainers ( Attended many masterclasses of them Vishen Lakhiani, Ajit Nawalhka, Marisa Peer, Lisa Nicols, Jeffrey Allen, Donna Eden, Michael Beckwith, Jim Kwik), regularly follow them, Rohini Mundra sessions(her experience also is of great value), Bob Proctor and his suggestions they are brilliant. After reading the books suggested by these masters it has really enlightened my whole perspective of life. Thanks to all who have been there for me when I needed it the most. Personally as well as online.
Let me put it as a pointer:
- It’s rightly said what you think you become. I won’t say we will never face depression or never get upset about anything. But the most important thing is to overcome those conditions that are temporary.
- Find one person in your life with whom you can share the thoughts Infact the very thought that is coming into your mind. Whether it is weird or anything shares it with anyone. Even if you don’t have anyone to share from your family then share it with a counselor. The reason is you it will help you to declutter your mind, clean your mind, and then finally you have space to rethink in the right way. It is said you can not pour tea into an already filled cup it will overflow and cause wastage. The same thing is with our minds. If we don’t empty our minds with the beliefs that we already have, we will never have space to think differently.
- Now the toughest question would arise do we think the person who has gone to the last stage of depression where he is not having anything and doesn’t want to connect to anyone. What they should do. Will they be in that state of mind to connect or share with anyone. I will tell you here comes the role of family and friends. We often know our friends and family. what kind of personality someone is. One can be emotional, one can be silent, one can be too introverted. etc. I am sure we would have known by now the personality of your loved ones for sure. I am sure when they are overreacting try to be calm and understand the thing that is bothering them. At least don’t leave them alone when they need you even if they ask you to leave them alone. If you are truly related to their heart it won’t be hard to understand their situation.
- Life is precious, better to have heated arguments and burst your emotions out by talking to each other rather than regret later to feel their absence forever in your life.
- Be a good listener, never try to impose your thoughts on them as a viewpoint. I am sure the person who has gone through a lot doesn’t need them as they have already faced it. Be empathetic.
